Loving Yourself in the Present


When I was a teenager, one of my favorite words was “next.”   “Next week or next year I’m going to do this or that,” I would say.  One day my wise sister, who is only 3 years older, said, “Why do you keep wishing your life away? You never talk about right now.”

Throughout the years, when I’ve lost focus, I recall her question.  Why not celebrate the good things I have in my life on this day? It takes little effort to see what I don’t have, especially when I compare myself to others in an improper way. 

If you're guilty of spending too much time focusing on what you don't have, I encourage you to do this simple exercise. Instead of comparing yourself to someone who you think has more than you do, compare yourself to someone who you think has less than you.  This is not to make you feel superior, but to help you see how blessed you really are!

When soulful legendary singer Gladys Knight does her rendition of The Way We Were (Barbara Streisand), the singer says, “As bad as we think these are, these will become the good ole days for our children. Oh, why does it seem the past is always better? The winter was warmer. The grass was greener.”

I wonder if we see the past as better because we’re remembering only how good we looked (physically) in our youth.  We’ve forgotten about the awkwardness and sometimes selfishness of youth.

Another verse in The Way We Were says “what’s too painful to remember, we simply choose to forget.” As surely as every stage of life, including youth, has its benefits, every stage of life, including youth, has its challenges.  

Begin looking at what you have to offer today.  Just as you are not wearing the same style clothes you did 20 years ago—at least I hope not—you must update your view of yourself.  Redefine what you call beauty.  Begin looking at your beauty from the inside out, mentally, spiritually and then physically.

Never compare your unique beauty with any other woman. Each woman whether she is younger or older has beauty for her season of life.

Find something good about this day and begin loving yourself in the present. I encourage you to enjoy your “right now” journey!