Okay,
I admit it. When I was single, I created a list of what I wanted in a mate. I’m a “list person,” meaning I enjoy making a list
for everything. Did you know that your long “mate-shopping” list can be a hindrance in
recognizing God’s man for you? Here are a few of the most popular items on single Christian women’s list:
Physical
requirement. There are handsome men in the bible. David
had two fine sons, Absalom (2 Sam. 14:25) and Adonijah (1 Kings 1:6). And,
Joseph was so handsome (Gen. 39:6) that I'm convinced his beauty played a role in
getting him locked up! And ladies, be honest. Who doesn’t want a Shemar Moore
or John Stamos look-a-like?
However,
physical beauty changes throughout the years. The beautiful head of hair
becomes thin or ashy grey. Sadly, healthy young people as well as old are stricken
with an unexpected handicap or disease. Accidents disfigure even the most
beautiful people. Maybe, this is one of the main reasons God said to Samuel in 1Samuel
16:7 “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I
have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward
appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” English Standard Version (ESV)
Career/Education/Financial Status.
The showoff partner is the first cousin to the trophy wife. His status, whether
it is career, education or finance, impresses you and others at parties, church, class
reunions and other public functions.
The
truth is your relationship, especially your marriage, will not be lived out at
church, parties or class reunions. What will become most important is how he
treats you. Does he builds you up most of the time or slowly destroys your
self-esteem?
Deal-breakers. There should be
major deal breakers or refuse to accept on your list. But, no man will have
everything you want on your list. Do not expect any man to fulfill all your
needs. Only God can do this! Go to God and continue to ask him to open your eyes
to the man that he wants to be your husband.
What are your thoughts about making an Ideal Mate List?
