Wise as Serpents Harmless as Doves –Online Dating Scams

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Jesus told his 12 disciples, “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” Matthew 10:16-American Standard Version

While I believe every Christian should practice being “wise as serpents, and harmless as doves,” I want to apply this specifically to online dating. At the time of this post, many are wondering if former star Notre Dame Linebacker Manti Te'o played a role in the dead girlfriend hoax, which has received a lot of media attention.  Because of the popularity of his story, once again, there are scores of warnings about fake profiles on social media and online dating.

I don’t speak against Christian online dating sites because I never tried it when I was single. I have heard of success stories as well as I have heard of tragic stories. However, I have been scammed and encourage Christian women not to be overly confident that they will never be tricked by a con artist.  Many con artists have been practicing their tricky or deception for years and years.

In doing research on online dating scams, I applaud one “Christian” site, which plainly tells its audience:
We DO NOT PROVIDE BACKGROUND CHECK on any of the members. Members need to do run their own search to check a background of a member they are interested in.

Below are links to articles that offer practical tips about safeguarding yourself during online dating:

http://www.consumerfraudreporting.org/AFFreligion.php- Money Transfer and Business Scams: Scammers Using Religious, God, Jesus to Con You

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  1. This is very sad isn't it.
    I met Ray on-line, BUT, I was very careful.
    I asked for his home phone number and got it... I could phone at any time, knowing it was an American home phone and that no one else was there, (Yes, be careful of married men pretending to be single.) Next I got onto a cam camera, and asked him to do the same. He obliged and I noted his open body language. The moment a person begins to make excuses, you know something is not right. If they only give a cell phone, then smell a rat!! you are probably getting coned by one.

  2. Crystal Mary, I am so glad you commented. I was actually waiting for you to share your story :) Thanks for telling your success story and the online dating precautions you took when you met Ray.