THE HOLIDAY LOVE LIE


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The Holiday Love Lie is heard in romantic songs and seen on romantic movies. The Holiday Love Lie makes you feel that you are the only person on the planet without a mate.  This same “only person left” lie was used centuries earlier on Elijah when he was feeling depressed, lonely and suicidal. His cry in 1 Kings 19: 14 was "I, even I only, am left.”

Elijah soon found out what a big lie he had believed because there were 7,000 men and women who had not worshipped Baal, a false god!

Just as Elijah believed he could not make it through another day, the Holiday Love Lie wants you to think that you can’t make it through another day (or at least this holiday season) being single. The truth is that you can do all things with Christ (Philippians 4:13). You are not a weak little thing. You are the beautiful and strong daughter of the King.

Finally, like Elijah, the Holiday Love Lie wants you to think that your desire for marriage has been forgotten by your Heavenly Father.  Let’s think about this for a minute. Do you think a Father who knows the number of hairs on your head (Matthew 10:30) or knew you before you were born (Jeremiah 1:5) could forget anything about you?      

Be encouraged this holiday season because whatever lies may approach you, recognize it for what it is: a lie which originated from a defeated enemy, the father of lies (John 8:44).

Enjoy this holiday season because the BEST IS YET TO COME!

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” New International Version (©1984) For more tips on enjoying your holidays, read: http://www.marryingover40.blogspot.com/2011/11/single-christian-holiday-survival-tips.html

Prayer Forgotten?


Yet, they say, “My Lord deserted us: he has forgotten us.”
 Never! Can a mother forget her little child and not have love for her own son? Yet, even if that should be, I will not forget you.  
Isaiah 49: 14-15 (The Living Bible)                                                                           
  
I believe one of the reasons the Lord allowed me to be single until I was 40 is to relate to my older single sisters. I remember how it feels to wonder (if only for a spilt second) if the Lord has forgotten your prayer for a mate…a godly mate. I remember how it feels when everyone else seems to have found the “perfect” mate. I remember how it feels to take control of the situation since God hasn’t given you the man you want when you wanted him.  I remember how it feels to idealize marriage. Yes, God has given me a powerful memory. He even allowed me to write my thoughts and my actions in a journal so I wouldn’t forget! Today when I write that God hasn’t forgotten you, I know from personal experience that He hasn’t. Be encouraged!

AGE LIMIT FOR LOVE?


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He looks at her with love in his eyes and asks her to marry him. She gently touches his face and thanks God for finding a man like him. Joining hand in hand, they take their daily stroll in the park as they ponder how the grandchildren will react to their wonderful news.


Wait a minute! Grandchildren? Isn’t this the beginning of a love story about the young and beautiful? Not necessarily.

Although, the two characters in my story are fictional, real people are shattering the misconception that you can’t be a day over 25 to find love.

My favorite marriage-myth shattering stories are people in their 70s or 80s reuniting with their childhood crush. Perhaps, both are widowed and no longer believe finding a mate to share the rest of life’s journey is possible. This misconception is one that they have in common with the “young” 40 and 50-something.

I know this is the reason I find the story of Rowland Fellows, 84 and Beth Ashley, 83 appealing. They met when he was 13 and she was 12 years old. They married 70 years later. www.nytimes.com/2009/09/13/fashion/weddings/13vows.html

Mavis Walczyk and Ralph Black’s marrying 65 years after meeting is equally pleasing. They met when she was 8 and he was 11.

Years ago, I learned one of my grand-aunts married for the first time at age 65. Today, I read about a woman who was marrying for the first time at age 70!

Young love, without Christ, is often based on physical appearance, popularity or wealth. Older people have seen that time brings changes in physical appearance, popularity and wealth.

Although I don’t know the spiritual beliefs of any of these people I cited in this blog, I believe when the old finds love, it should be honored and celebrated.

MEET AUTHOR CRYSTAL MARY LINDSAY

On this post, I’m featuring author Crystal Mary Lindsay with her new novel Shadows of TimeIf you have a product or service that would be interesting to single Christian women 35+, email me with the details. You may be featured on MarryingOver40.

InSeasonMom Cynthia: Is Shadows of Time your first inspirational romance novel? 

Crystal Mary: Yes, it is my first novel.

InSeasonMom Cynthia: How are inspirational romance books/novels different from mainstream romance books/novels?

Crystal Mary: I believe they encourage and instead of being full of worldly ideas, they inspire the reader to live by their morals and faith in Jesus Christ.

InSeasonMom Cynthia: What inspired you to write Shadows of Time?

Crystal Mary: The first reason was my mother. She always wanted to see something of her own in print, but never made it. So now she has done this at 94years of age through me. The second reason was that when I resided in the USA I discovered how little was known and understood about my country Australia, so I wanted to change this. Of course because I am a Christian it had to have that God blessed flavour.


InSeasonMom Cynthia:What message do you want the reader to come away with after reading Shadows of Time?

Crystal Mary: That no matter what personal set backs you go through in life, nothing is impossible. We are told in Gods that as a man thinketh in his heart, so shall it be (Proverbs 23:7). Note it says here 'in his heart.' So its with our feeling, not our logic (brain).People can lack confidence because of their life circumstances. But when we have a faith in God, we can know with a certainty, that all things are possible through Christ who strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).


InSeasonMom Cynthia: Are you planning to write other inspirational romance novels?

Crystal Mary: Yes, a sequel is now on the way. Plus another, I'm actually writing two at once.

Click here to purchase Shadows of Time. Read Crystal Mary's own story of finding love again after 40.

Overview-Shadows of Time

Twenty-seven-year-old Ariana Ross has not had an easy life. Orphaned at two after her parents are
Twenty-seven-year-old Ariana Ross has not had an easy life. Orphaned at two after her parents are murdered, she is raised by her father’s family in Queensland, Australia. Ariana—who embraces spirituality and refuses to believe life is against her—eventually becomes a physician. Now, as Ariana heads to new beginnings at a medical practice in Gumbirra, Queensland, she hopes to broaden her horizons, tend to her patients with the help of God’s love, and leave her past behind. She has no idea how many surprises await to change her life forever.


After relocating, Ariana encounters Zane Lombardi, a handsome, angry stranger who leaves her heart thumping. It is only after another chance encounter with him that she realizes he is an emotionally scarred man who has lost his trust in women. Even so, the pair are so attracted to each other that it seems destiny dictates the potential for a relationship. As Ariana forges new friendships and heals her patients, Zane must reconcile his past as well as his relationship with God as he looks toward the future.

In this contemporary Christian tale, Ariana finds that her quest for a new beginning seems to be leading her to not only love, but also to an amazing discovery that may bring her inner peace at last.






InSeasonMom Cynthia: Crystal Mary, thank you so much for being a blessing by sharing your writing talents.
Cystal Mary:Thank you also. We are all a part of the Body of Christ and as such should bless and up hold one other.