Recently, I commented in a leading Christian magazine about marrying
later. Another reader responded:
“It's not impossible, but if one is being honest, one has to
admit that it is rare. Statistically, the older a woman is the more the odds
are against her...particularly if she wants a Christian mate. Most churches
have a surplus of single women of a certain age, but relatively fewer available
men, and the ones who are all too often act like the proverbial rooster in the
hen house. I've seen it, and it's not pretty. Women who marry older often times
it's just out of sheer luck...or manipulation. That's the truth.”
I agree with the reader on several points:
Most churches have more women than men.
In David Murrow’s book Why Men Hate Going to Church, he
writes, “I truly believe women must play a key role if men are to return (to
the church). Because women dominate in attendance, leadership, and
volunteerism, they hold great sway in the local church (even if they don’t
realize it). Women must humble themselves, pray, and allow the men of the
church to lead the body toward an adventure.” For more interesting points on
men and church, check out this link: http://churchformen.com
The proverbial rooster in the hen (church) house does exist.
I agree with the reader that because of the surplus of
single women of a certain age and fewer available men, many brothers act like
the proverbial rooster in the hen house. Unfortunately, we, the church, have
accepted this behavior, which is both sickening and sinful.
Main point of disagreement: older women who marry, marry out
of sheer luck or manipulation.
While statistics may be against us, I know other women who
married at a later age and they did not manipulate their potential mates. I
know it’s difficult, but I encourage my single sisters to keep believing. If
God can part the Red Sea for Moses, He can
send you a mate…if it’s His will!
