My lovely Christian Single Sister, you've tried "their" way to find a husband in 2016. Now try God's way in 2017! Proverbs 3:5-6. Their way didn't work because it wasn't God's way! What are you planning to do in 2017 to help you in your spiritual walk?
“Women in their late 30s and 40s are flooded with negative information about their probability of getting married to having healthy babies,” says Cynthia Wilson James, author of Marry Over 40 By Faith and founder of InSeasonMom, recognized by CBS New York and MSNBC as a leading resource for first time moms over 35.
"This is especially discouraging for Christian women who are professionals,” says Cynthia, who married for the first time at age 40, conceived naturally and gave birth at age 42 and 44 to two healthy daughters. “Professional women may be on top of their career, but they still want a husband, someone to share their lives.
Unfortunately, most churches or programs do not minister to the needs of older single Christian women. They may address a woman not being married after a certain age in a joking manner in a sermon. But, it’s not a joke to the woman who doesn’t want to be single.”
“Hope Calls Faith Walks for Single Christian Women" provides emotional support and doesn’t take the place of psychotherapy or professional counseling. Cynthia says “It’s not a substitution for professional mental or medical health advice. It’s more like talking to a good friend who’s been through what you’re going through; someone who can relate and encourage you in your journey with action steps. It's coaching and mentoring!”
HOPE CALLS FAITH WALKS-Live Support includes:
● 30-45 minutes of live emotional support via telephone weekly
● Email support to stay in touch between sessions
● Action steps you can use now focusing on your mental, physical and spiritual health discussed and emailed weekly
● Helpful/Inspiring resources (article links/ book suggestions/ quotes) emailed weekly
● Time to share what’s on your heart
● Private Christian faith-based support from Cynthia who married at 40, conceived naturally and gave birth at age 42 and 44 to healthy children
For pricing and time availablity, please email me (Cynthia): email@example.com
That’s me Cynthia, writer/blogger of Marry Over 40 By Faith and InSeason Mom pictured above.
For some time now, I’ve secretly wanted to do a photo shoot. When talented photographer Grace-Given (Jimmie Basco) presented the opportunity, I hesitated. Then I decided not to give in to my fear and to fulfill my long-awaited wish.
I asked my best friend Lisa to accompany me for moral support. Little did I know she would not only provide moral support but she would provide much needed technique support.
My friend Lisa pictured above
As Jimmie, the photographer, suggested certain poses to get the best shot, I discovered something about me: I was as stiff as a board when it came to looking relaxed and natural in front of the camera! (I’ve heard previous comments about my stiffness when I’m dancing from one of teenage daughters.)
While he coached me along, Lisa, used her background as a former model, to demonstrate what he wanted. Listening to what Jimmie said and looking at what Lisa did, I learned 3 life lessons:
1-Be willing to listen and learn from a variety of supportive people/mentors
Whether your goal is to become an InSeason Mom or to advance in your career, your success does not hinge on your knowledge alone. Gain knowledge from several resources. Then apply that knowledge to move forward.
2-Appreciate Your Own Uniqueness
All of us have something about us physically that we would like to change. Yet, this very thing adds to our uniqueness. What’s even more amazing to me is with 7+ billion people in the world, you will never run into anyone who is exactly like you. Science says two people cannot have the same DNA, even identical twins. To me this means that the God of the Universe thought you were such a great treasure that He created only one “you.”
3-What You Feel Inside Will Show Outside
“Think about Larry,” said either Jimmie or Lisa during the photo shoot. Larry is my husband. Until then, I was thinking about unfinished work I had to do. And, my thoughts were showing in my eyes and in the camera lens. Soon my eyes lit up with thoughts of Larry. I would encourage you to make it a regular practice to replace defeating negative thoughts with uplifting positive thoughts.
Thanks Lisa and photographer Grace-Given (Jimmie Basco) for making my first photo shoot fun and for helping me to learn a few life lessons in the process!
It’s no surprise that Karen along with some of her close artist friends are using their God given gifts of song, storytelling, poetry, dance and musicianship to encourage women and teen girls through WOMEN SOAR EVENT 2017. The event is designed to inspire women and teen girls with a clearer understanding of who they truly are in Christ.
I asked Karen if she had any advice to share with single Christian women about marriage.
"If you're feeling the pressure to get married, just to get married and you haven't found anyone," she said, "don't just jump into any situation to have a husband and to have a child. You could be jumping into a fire. Trust God because nothing is more wonderful than having a mate that is loving and supportive. This is a healthy relationship to bring a child into."
Read about Karen's journey of conceiving and giving birth after age 35 on my InSeason Mom blog.
Check out the clip below and her moving portrayal of Miss Clara in the movie War Room.
Who would have thought by growing up on a farm God was showing me a life-long lesson?
I didn’t appreciate the peaceful farm scenery growing up. I wanted to live in town, a fast-paced city. Now I always feel refreshed when I go to our family farm, soaking up the sunshine and looking at the beautiful scenery.
Having been raised on a farm, I’ve seen first-hand that when you plant seeds for a crop not all of them will produce at the same time. Each will operate in its own God-given season.
The exact is true with our lives. You may have wanted to get married during your twenties or early thirties but did not. You are in your season of waiting.
Getting married at 40, conceiving naturally and giving birth at age 42 and 44 was NEVER in my well-designed plan. I was supposed to be married to Mr. Super Christian and have all of my well-behaved children by age 27! However, the detour from my perfect plan has made me more compassionate and humble. The years have taught me from seeing the experiences of others that when our dreams are fulfilled too quickly, we take the fulfillment for granted. We become prideful.
Now, years after praying through my season of waiting, I know and embrace the ministry God has chosen for me. I know that providing support through this blog for Christian women 35+ who want to get married and providing support for first time moms and women who want to be moms over 35 and 40 through InSeason Mom is His well-designed path for me.
When I connect with women over 35 and 40 who are in their “season of waiting," I do not view them as statistics. I see them as I see myself and that’s why I often call them “my sisters.” I want them to know that God has not forgotten them. He still has wonderful plans for them (Jeremiah 29:11). I know this because He has used my life as a testimony to the other side of their journey-Harvest time!